111 Beyond Your Wedding Day Podcast-Love of God and Spouse

by mike on March 6, 2013

111 Beyond Your Wedding Day Podcast-Love of God and Spouse

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In this episode of the Beyond Your Wedding Day Podcast, we discuss chapters 7 &8,      “Love of God” & “Love of Spouse” from the book “Boundaries in Marriage” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.

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Sometimes if you cannot commit to changing for each other, you can commit to change for God

*If we change to what God asks of us, the marriage relationship is bound to improve

*If each spouse travels toward God, they will travel closer to each other

Loving your spouse is so much more than just a feeling

*It means that you so deeply identify with your spouse that you feel the effects of your own behavior on your spouse.

*Spouses often don’t see how their actions are truly affecting their spouse

*To deeply identify with someone is to think about the effects of your behavior on that person

*It also means that you think of making your spouse’s life better

*You take the time to think about what it would be like to be in their situation

*For example, what would be helpful to her when I get home after she has been home with the kids all day

*Finally, it means that you want the best for your spouse even when your spouse can’t see what that is

*This could be something like doing an intervention and enrolling them in rehab even if they don’t think they need it

*It’s having the difficult confrontations and conversations because you love them

A successful marriage requires a deep sense of commitment

*If leaving the marriage is an option, why would you bother going through the pain and work of “fixing” your marriage

*An analogy would be that commitment to a surgery is vital.  If a patient decides halfway through heart surgery, they don’t want to do it anymore, they will die.  The surgeon still has work to do.  Maybe God still has work to do in you and your marriage.

To love your spouse also requires action

*Specifically, it requires you to actively love them in their love language

 

 

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