075 Beyond Your Wedding Day Podcast-4 Keys To A Happy Wife

by mike on March 21, 2012

075 Beyond Your Wedding Day Podcast-4 Keys To A Happy Wife

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In this episode of the Beyond Your Wedding Day Podcast, we continue our discussion of the book Rocking The Roles by Robert Lewis and William Hendricks.  We discussed Part III: The Husband’s Core Concerns.

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 Chapter 9 Feminine Understanding

-1 Peter 3:7 says: “You husbands, likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir to the grace of life”

                  *in other words, learn about and know your wife and then treat her as valuable as fine china!

-Treat your wife differently than your buddies “since she is a woman”

                  *many men treat their wives as if they like the same things as they do

*women are wired differently, so they will have different interests and a different perspective

-It’s very easy for a husband to think he’s doing nice things for his wife and she just doesn’t interpret it that way

                  *often, it’s a love language issue

*you may think that working 65 hours is doing everything you can for your wife, but she just wants you to be around.  The working is for you, not her!

Chapter 10: What Every Wife Needs To Succeed  

The following four terms are the keys to your wife’s happiness in marriage:

-Companionship

                  *women desire to relate to their husbands in a deep, intimate, never-ending way

*Being is more important the doing

*Many men see the wedding as accomplishing a goal (we did it, now let’s move on!), where women see it as just a step in the never-ending process of deep companionship

*The best compliment you can give your wife is to just BE with her.  Enjoy spending time with her and just listening to her

-Security

                  *Biblically, making sure the family is financially secure is the husband’s role/job

*1 Timothy 5:8 “If anyone does not provide for his own, for those of his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever”.

*Men, make it your goal that your wife should never HAVE to work.  She may CHOOSE to, but she should never HAVE to!

-Significance

                  *You must praise your wife since most of what she does is “behind the scenes”

*She will never get paid financially for most of what she does, although it’s invaluable

*Many women are entering the workforce now not just because of money, but because they get a sense of significance that their husbands are failing to give them with their work at home

-Emotional Responsiveness

                  *Author John Gray writes “When a man does not object to or argue with a woman’s feelings, but instead accepts and confirms their validity, and listens with empathy as she explores those feelings, a women will feel truly loved”

*Men feel the need to “fix” her problems, instead you need to just listen!


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