056 Beyond Your Wedding Day Podcast-Marriage Makes You Holy
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We began our discussion of the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. We started with Chapter 1 “The Greatest Challenge in the World.
-“To spiritually benefit from marriage…we have to look at our disappointments, own up to our ugly attitudes, and confront our selfishness.”
-What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?
*maybe, just maybe, marriage is a tool to help us grow, especially spiritually
*It’s not that romance in marriage is bad, it’s just that it is faulty to think that marriages can last on romance or romantic FEELINGS alone
*once someone starts to have any ill feelings at all toward their spouse, it shatters their view of romantic love
*any spiritually strong marriage must be built on mature love instead of romantic love
*once marriage hits the flat, boring times there are usually only a few options:
-many will break up their marriages (to try and recreate the “passion”)
-others just fall into a miserable warfare where each one passively-aggressively blames the other for their dissatisfaction
-some couples decide to simply “get along”
-some may just decide to pursue a deeper meaning, a spiritual truth hidden in the enforced intimacy of the marital situation
-Marriage calls us to an entirely new and selfless life
*any situation that causes you to confront your selfishness has enormous spiritual value
*happiness and holiness are not mutually exclusive, but looking at marriage through the lens of holiness can really change your attitude (a paradigm shift)
-We are going to discuss more of this topic next time.
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